Without accessing the mystery of marriage, one would see a blissful marriage as far-fetched. Conversely, those who access the mystery of marriage enjoy their marriages. This article unlocks a powerful mystery of a blissful marriage: the Acceptance Principle.

Lewis’ Story

“I wish my wife would stop snoring,” said Lewis (not his real name). Lewis loves his wife but desperately wants her to stop snoring. Like Lewis, many married people desire their spouses to change in one or more areas.

Is it proper for an individual to desire the spouse to change in certain areas? No! Unknown to many, the desire for one’s spouse to change in certain areas is a significant cause of marital problems. Did you know people want their spouses to change only in the areas of their supposed weaknesses? In other words, they want their spouses to be perfect without weakness. Unfortunately, we were created to be imperfect, meaning that no matter the effort anyone makes, all the spouse’s weaknesses cannot disappear. Hence, many get frustrated trying to change their spouses, sometimes leading to separation or divorce.

The Acceptance Principle of Marriage

The key to a blissful marriage lies in practising the Acceptance Principle Of Marriage. But what does this principle entail? It means accepting your spouse just the way they are. This principle is rooted in Romans 15:7, which urges us to accept each other as Christ has accepted us. How did Christ accept us? He accepted us with all our flaws and imperfections.

Similarly, we should accept our spouses with all their flaws. This acceptance brings a profound sense of relief, freeing us from the burden of striving for unattainable perfection in our spouses. It’s up to you to implement this principle in your marriage.

Understanding the Acceptance Principle Of Marriage

• The Acceptance Principle Of Marriage functions on the premise that marriage brings two people together and makes them one family in the same way blood makes a mother and child one family. 
• Just as a mother accepts and loves her child irrespective of their looks, size, complexion, weight, height, educational background and behaviour, everyone who wants to have a blissful marriage must accept their spouse unconditionally.
• Please don’t compare your spouse with someone else. Although your spouse cannot be like another person, they have some qualities no one else can have.
• Instead of trying to change your spouse, the change should start with you. When you change, you will accept your spouse as Christ accepted you. This self-reflection and personal growth can be empowering, leading to a blissful marriage

What do you think? 

What makes it difficult to accept a spouse unconditionally?