Blissful Marriage: Managing Your Spouse’s Flaws
People’s flaws make it difficult for couples to experience a blissful marriage. Since no one can marry a person who doesn’t have faults, the best thing for anyone who desires a blissful marriage is to learn how to manage their spouse’s weaknesses. This article reveals how one can manage the spouse’s flaws to experience a blissful marriage.
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The Scriptural Reference
Why do you look at the [insignificant] speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice and acknowledge the [egregious] log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me get the speck out of your eye,’ when there is a log in your own eye? You hypocrite (play-actor, pretender), first get the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:3-5 AMP)
Understanding that God created us all with imperfections is crucial. Our inability to accept and manage these flaws can lead to frustration, unhappiness, and even marriage breakdown. However, today’s scripture offers a principle that can guide us in managing our spouse’s flaws to have a blissful marriage.
Jesus uses a metaphor to ask why we look at a speck of sawdust in our brother’s eye and overlook the log of wood in our eye. He explains that we must first remove the log in our eyes before we can see clearly and remove the speck from our brother’s eyes. Although we can apply the principle in today’s scripture to all kinds of relationships, I’ll limit my write-up to marriage to reflect the article’s subject.
Managing Your Faults and Your Spouse’s Flaws
- In the metaphor, the speck and a log in our eyes represent the faults and weaknesses in our lives. Thus, the scripture affirms that everyone, including you and your spouse, has weaknesses.
- Another significant lesson from the scripture is that anyone who notices a flaw in the spouse has a more significant fault. Jesus says the person who sees the speck in another person’s eyes has a log in their eye. Since a speck is just a fraction of a log, one who sees a weakness in the spouse has many more faults than the spouse.
- Jesus reveals that to manage your spouse’s faults, you must first work on your flaws. When one cannot work on their weaknesses, they are ineligible to work on their spouse’s flaws. Instead of having a blissful marriage, such a person may be frustrated.
- The truth is that we were all created with faults. Just like baskets were created with holes, God created us with weaknesses. Also, as baskets can never stop having holes, we can never stop having flaws.
- Your spouse’s faults disturb you because your weaknesses are too many to accept them as they are. If you were Jesus, you would take your spouse as they are. Although you are not Jesus, the Bible says you should accept one another as Christ accepted you (Romans 15:7 NIV). This acceptance is crucial for a harmonious and blissful marriage.
You must understand that just as you don’t like your spouse’s weaknesses, they don’t love your flaws. According to today’s scripture, you are not qualified to work on your spouse’s faults until you have worked on your flaws. However, since we cannot be without faults, work on yours as much as possible and accept your spouse the way they are, and you’ll have a blissful marriage.
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PRAYER POINT
Father, help me work on my flaws as much as possible in Jesus’ name.
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