Although many unmarried men and women desire to marry, they find it difficult to find their desired spouse. This article emphasises the importance of the right association in finding a desired spouse.

Charlotte’s Story

I bumped into our new neighbour at a small park close to our house last week while walking our dog, Buddy. Since Charlotte (not her real name) moved into our estate about five months ago, we hadn’t talked apart from the usual “hello” or “good morning”. But when I walked Buddy to the park and saw her with her dog, we started discussing as Buddy and her dog played. When Charlotte knew I was a relationship expert, she immediately asked me if there was anything she could do to get married. After asking her specific questions, I realised that a lack of correct association caused her delay in settling down.

Charlotte’s late mum was British, while her Dad was Australian. She was born in Australia, but her family moved to the UK when she was two. Charlotte grew up seeing her parents have a blissful marriage and made two significant decisions when she was twenty: first, to marry an Australian man like her mum and second, to marry early, if possible. Unfortunately, Charlotte is now in her early thirties and has yet to marry. Although she has had more than eight suitors since then, she rejected all because none of them was Australian.

“Do you know any Australian man?” I asked her. She said, “No.” “Do you associate with Australians in the UK or online?” I asked again. “No,” she answered. If you don’t live in Australia, don’t associate with Australians, and don’t know any Australian man, how can you meet and marry an Australian? I queried.

Why Many Struggle to Find Their Desired Spouse

Many unmarried individuals, like Charlotte, struggle to find their desired spouse. Despite their attractiveness and good manners, they are unable to meet their desired spouse because they don’t associate with the right people. For instance, if a person wishes to marry a medical doctor and spends time with lawyers instead of doctors, their chances of meeting a doctor are significantly reduced. On the other hand, if they interact with doctors, their chances of marrying one increase. That underlines the crucial role of correct association in finding a spouse.

How to Find Your Desired Spouse

Abraham asked his servant, Eliezar, to choose a wife for Isaac from his kindred. When Eliezer got to Mesopotamia, Abraham’s kindred, he didn’t want to waste time searching for a wife from street to street. He decided to go to a place where many unmarried ladies gathered. So, Eliezer went to the well, where ladies fetched water every evening, and it was easy for him to meet Rebekah (Genesis 24:11).

If you need a spouse, the first step is identifying the type of person you’d like to marry. Once you’ve done that, the next question is: Where can you meet such a person? Find that place and start associating with the people there. No matter how fervently you pray, finding your desired spouse may be difficult if you don’t interact with the right people. Contrarily, when you associate with the right people, the path to marriage becomes much smoother.

Where do you think an average young man can find a suitable spouse?

What are the bottlenecks of associating rightly?

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